How to Meet ‘The One’
Looking for Mr Right in a crowd of Mr Wrongs can be as tough as searching for a needle in a haystack. We meet so many people in our daily lives, but find only a few of them to be mutually compatible with us. A person who appears attractive at first sight may turn out to be uninteresting after a meeting. Likewise, someone you meet online may seem to possess a charming personality, but could turn out to be your neighbourhood schizophrenic in actuality. Indeed, we may have to make our way through a number of frogs before we can find Prince Charming.
A few simple yet effective pointers can help boost your chances of meeting someone special.
Spring Cleaning
You cannot hope for a bright future if you are still living in a murky past. It is important to get over your last broken relationship before you can move on to a new one. In fact, letting go of who you were sometimes is the first step towards becoming who you will be. If severing all ties with an ex doesn’t seem easy, consider putting them out of the picture for a while. Throw out the emotional baggage, and make space for someone new!
Facing Fears
If the thought of asking someone out sends nervous shivers up your spine, it is time to step up and do just that. Fear of rejection is only natural, particularly if your efforts have been snubbed by someone in the past; but as long as you are haunted by insecurities and anxieties, you won’t be able to muster the confidence needed to attract other people and initiate connections with them. Like they say, you cannot hope to discover new lands unless you are willing to lose sight of the shore.
Loving Thyself
Carrie Bradshaw, the iconic protagonist of the immensely popular ‘Sex & the City’ series, had wisely declared that the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. That is, unless you love yourself, you cannot expect others to love you. So why not take some time off your busy schedule and pamper yourself? Maybe read a book, go for a walk, get a massage, or a hot bath? The inner peace and joy is sure to show on the outside and make others sit up and take notice.
Open Up
Be willing to someone a chance, who you might not have considered otherwise, and you might be pleasantly surprised. Ditch the preconceived notions for an even-handed approach, and think twice before refusing a date. It might also help to re-examine your relationship expectations… are they too stringent? Or too self-involved? Try smiling at everyone you encounter, and don’t dismiss flirting as too advanced an option for a first encounter. If you show people you are interested, they’ll be likelier to respond similarly.
With these helpful insights in mind, meeting someone special will be easier than you think!
