Signs to show the end of a Relationship

Being in a relationship is a wonderful feeling and for many of the lucky ones, the relationship progresses without too many problems. For some others, the relationship might turn out to be fraught with tensions and ego clashes and differences that seem to be too serious to make it work.

The real question is how do you know when your relationship is over and that there is no point in clinging on to it? It is normal to give in to the impulse to delude yourself into thinking that there is still a chance to make it work but there are some pointers that can help you decide whether your relationship is worth fighting for or whether it really is over and time to move on.

Lack of affection and good feelings – remember those times when you fell in love with your partner? Think of the wonderful feelings he/she evoked in you and the joy you derived out of the relationship. Do you find those warmth and happiness missing now? Do you find yourself thinking more of the faults than the good traits of your partner? A marked lack of positive feelings about your partner is a pointer to the fact that your relationship might be over.

Too frequent fights – if most of your time is spent fighting with each other about something or the other, it shows a feeling of disconnect with each other. Spending most of your time finding faults with your partner can be a sign that your relationship is over.

Emotional distance – you feel like you are becoming strangers even while spending time together. When you no longer feel like sharing what is going on in your mind or when problems arise, your partner is not the first person who comes to mind to share it with, most probably, your relationship has gone beyond the point of saving it. Noticing an increasing emotional distance between the two of you is a sign that either (or both) of you have already ended the relationship in your mind.

Lack of physical intimacy – there is less show of affection such as kissing and hugging between you and your partner. This reduced feeling of physical intimacy even translates to less frequent sex. Every couple goes through an occasional slowdown in their sex life but if you find that you do not feel any desire to initiate sex with your partner, it can be a sign that you have ended your relationship already in your mind.

Suspicions of infidelity – your partner has been coming home late or giving vague explanations as to where they were or who they were with, too many late nights at the office. You feel as it he/she is being secretive all of a sudden and something doesn’t feel right. These can be signs that your partner might be cheating on you and your relationship is over.

Lack of mutual respect – you find being put down by your partner more often or you no longer feel any respect for your partner. Being treated without respect as well as treating your partner in a disrespectful manner is both signs of a relationship gone wrong.

One-sided effort – you feel as though you are the only one making an effort to hold the relationship together and solve the problems that seem to have cropped up. This shows the lack of commitment on your partner’s side.

Vague future plans – when you ask your partner where your relationship is heading and what your plans should be about your future together, you don’t get any clear answers. Similarly, when you try to visualize a future with your partner, you don’t feel any happiness at the picture.

All the above do not necessarily mean that your relationship is over but taken together, they can be signs to show how the relationship is in trouble.