Separation is killing me

Long distance relationships are very common these days. Not less than 10 million couples are into it. Yet, it has its own challenges. After all being in a long distance relationship is easier than making it work. In a relationship like this, it is very natural for you to think at times that separation is killing me. But, the trick lies in handling the relationship effectively, so that the physical distance between you and your partner does not have too much effect on your feelings for each other.

Trust holds the key

In a long distance relationship, trust holds the key to keeping the bond alive. A true relationship is always built on trust and mutual respect. It is even more important in a long distance relationship, since you are not being able to see your partner every day. At times you may feel like saying separation is killing me. At other times, you may feel insecure or suspicious. However, the latter feelings generally originate from low self esteem and uncertainty about the status of your relationship. If you are convinced about your commitment towards each other insecurity or suspicion should not have any role to play. So, it is important to be sure of each other’s feelings. And of course, it is completely natural for you to shout once in a while, “separation is killing me”. It only shows how much you love each other.

Caution for control freaks

Being committed to each other, however, does not mean that you have to be over possessive, or worse, a control freak. Don’t even dream of remote controlling your partner’s lunch or dinner timings or meeting agendas, from a distance. It surely leads to a disaster in any relationship. The idea is to be in touch and not in a stifling control. Give space to each other, have faith and see the wonder it works!

Stay in touch regularly

It helps enormously, if you can communicate with each other regularly, if possible at a fixed time. Then both of you will wait for that appointed time eagerly and when you will communicate, you will surely feel that it is worth the wait. Even if a foxed time cannot be maintained for whatever constraints, a regular communication at all events is strongly recommended, as this is the vital key to maintaining a strong bond even from a distance. Be totally open in your communication with your partner when you do get the opportunity to communicate. Share even the apparently insignificant details of your daily lives. You may also actually tell your love that “separation is killing me”. The idea is to share a feeling of togetherness even from a distance. Technology is also at your hand to serve your purpose. You can think of arranging a web cam session or chat over the Internet. You can also write e-mail to each other. Be personal and direct in your approach to make your communication memorable.