How to break your relationship

Are you planning to come out of your relationship? Breakup hurts a person and shacks him or her completely. Moreover, if you have made up your mind to break the relation, then you must be wondering how? There are certain simple steps to break up a relation.

Questions which you must ask yourself before you breakup your relationship:

• Does the relationship have become a burden for you?
• Do you still have feelings for your lover?
• Are there any chances of reviving the relation?
• Do you have good communication with your partner?
• Does your partner satisfy your requirements?

The steps to breaking up:

Always remember that there are no miraculous words which take the pain of breakups away. But always try to lessen the pain of other person as much as you can. Listed below are some of the steps to breakup.

• Before you tell the person about your decision it is always better to be sure. You might want to come out of the relationship for a long time due to certain reasons like differences in opinions or you two are not able to resolve your conflicts. You might have realized that you no longer love your partner. You must be 100% sure that you cannot move forward in life with your partner.
• Once you have decided to put an end to your relation, then it is always better to keep distance from your lover prior to your break up. If your partner senses that you are trying to avoid her she will judge that something is about to happen in the coming days. Hopefully she will try to prepare herself for this situation. It is advisable to discontinue any kind of contact be it phone or even e-mail for at least a week before. If she calls you to know about your whereabouts just tell her that you are very busy.
• Always try to tell your partner in person about your decision to break up the relationship. Avoid using phone, letter and even e-mail. It not easier on your partner to break the news but you must have the guts to look into her eyes and tell about your decision.
• If your partner asks you about the reasons to leave her, you must be honest and explain all the reasons for your breakup clearly. Your partner may behave badly with you, but you must answer all her questions in the most honest manner you can. If your partner shows certain reactions like aggressiveness, mistreatment, crying and beseeching, then you must be confident and calm.
• You must tell your partner that it is all over. You must not give any hope to your partner. Avoid using words like “We can be friends”, “I will think it over the matter again” or “You will also be special for me”.
• Do not keep any kind of contact after breakup. It will help her to come out of the relationship easily. Never call her to know how is she doing? Or even send her a text message.

Breakup is not painless, but with the above mentioned tips you can at least help her to come of the relation.